We love our family and friends. However, there’s a sneaky little devil that sometimes gets in the way of our ability to truly appreciate… and that is comparison.
Comparing your 10-year-old dirty car to your neighbor’s sparkly clean new one. Or your not-even-remotely-in-shape body to the ripped, buff, sleek body working out on the elliptical next to yours; you’ve barely figured out how to coordinate your arms and legs. Or comparing your toddler’s wobbly steps to your sister’s same-age toddler zipping around the room.
Take inventory of just how many times a day you compare yourself or your life to someone else’s self or life, and, more importantly, find yourself wanting. You may be unpleasantly surprised at how often you judge yourself as defective. Not good enough. Swift enough. Smart enough. Thin enough. Rich enough. Talented enough.
It’s an easy trap to fall into especially since we see so many “perfect” people online.
Every time you ding yourself with a “less than” comparison, you hurt yourself. You send an unfortunate message to your entire being that you can’t, that you aren’t. Whatever it is, you don’t measure up. Your body and mind take that message quite literally, and with that, it’s more difficult for your body-mind to accomplish whatever it is you desire.
Tell Yourself “I’m Good Enough”
One of the most powerful messages you can give yourself is “I’m good enough.” Not perfect but not deficient either. Simply good enough. Ah… sweet relief.
Because from a position of “good enough,” you can appreciate yourself and your life as it is. You don’t need to compare yourself to anyone else to figure out if you’re good enough; you can adopt it as your basic stance.
Try it. Say “I’m good enough” to yourself often as you go about your day, and you’ll feel more confidence flow through you, allowing your body-mind to function at its current best.
Look for the Best in Others
If you really want to rock your world, try thinking, “You’re good enough” of others as well: your wobbly toddler, your husband with his affinity for clothes that never match, your dear friend who always seems frazzled, even strangers.
“You’re good enough” takes you out of the world of comparison and negative judgment, freeing you to enjoy and be grateful for others as they are.
