Have you ever been frustrated that this whole Law of Attraction thing works for others but not you? Well, I am here to reassure you that universal laws work for everyone. Therefore, the Law of Attraction is always at work. We are always co-creating, and in deliberate creation mode—ALWAYS.
Have you ever set an intention for a desire, taken action, and then gotten crickets (absolute radio silence)? It seems like there is no movement, and your beautiful manifestation is out of reach. It’s heartbreaking, you cry and feel like a real Law of Attraction loser. This was my story.
I was the woman who absolutely set an intention, took action, and watched my efforts like a hawk. I refused to let go.
I was the woman who firmly believed I knew the easiest way to achieve my desired manifestation. I was the woman who kept score and monitored every result from actions with extreme scrutiny and harshness.
I was the woman who would become frustrated because it wasn’t happening fast enough, and I would give up on a dream before I gave it time to manifest.
Oh yes, this was my story, and I am grateful for the amazing teachings I learned, including learning how to think of manifesting with a “divine nonchalance” mindset.
Imagine being a child on Christmas Eve awaiting Santa, Rudolph, and the entire reindeer team to come gliding through the air to your home. You are so excited and eager, and each hour on the hour you hop out of bed to look out the window to see how close Santa and his team are to your stop.
You are excited and eager, but there’s also a bit of uncertainty: What if the toy you have been wanting all year is out of stock, or Santa leaves the wrong toy at the wrong house? You are keenly aware of the lack of your desire in your physical reality, and your focus is solely on obtaining that desire.
Directing focus on the lack of the desired manifestation is totally normal for young deliberate creators; however, as we mature we begin to move into a space of “divine nonchalance” or confident letting go.
Now, imagine the feeling of knowing every present you have under the tree. You wake up Christmas morning excited; there was no peeking out of the window all night. You slept calmly and even slept late on Christmas morning. You are grateful and happy, yet so confident of what is in every neatly wrapped gift.
You embody divine nonchalance. You had provided Santa, your parents, grandparents, and all gift-giving persons a copy of your list. You know with certainty your Christmas list was fulfilled. NO DOUBT!
When I used to watch impatiently for my manifestation to arrive, I missed the opportunity to live in the end result. My impatience was a lack of confidence, a lack of trust in myself and in God. The more we are married to living in the lack of the desired manifestation, the less likely we are to embody divine nonchalance and live in the end result of our desired manifestation.
Living in the end result means being the person who has your desired manifestation now. This means shifting your inner being, the essence of who you are to align with the person who has your desired outcome. I made the shift by focusing on my self-concept.
The more I grounded in my worthiness and the knowing that I was more than enough with or without my manifestation, the easier it was to practice divine nonchalance. I embraced the notion that the cash, the car, the career, the love, the manifestation would not complete me. I authentically embraced myself as fully perfect and complete as I was.
The more I embodied authentic self-love—and not another manicure, pedicure, or glass of wine—the more confident I felt. Focusing on loving me gave me the emotional stamina to not be married to a temporary situation, my physical reality, or setbacks; I chose to embrace my manifestation as a done deal whether I saw evidence in the current moment or not.
I studied and became captivated by the woman I was becoming who had my desired manifestation. The more familiar I became with her, the more clarity I had about her thoughts, her essence, and how she moved through the world.
This allowed me to easily release living in lack, let go, and practice divine nonchalance. With clarity, I realized I was putting additional stress on myself by focusing on the lack of not having my desired manifestation and not believing enough to trust.
But letting go can be tough. I took score; I wanted my stuff (really, really bad), but the longer I didn’t let go, the more I didn’t practice authentic self-love and self-compassion. The more I attempted to align with my desired manifestation by forcing myself to visualize, script, and act as if, the more I drove it away. All I needed to do was be the person with the desired outcome.
By focusing on being the person who has your desired manifestation you transform. Being that person is naturally aligned to confidently letting go.
Practice letting go and being divinely nonchalant: Start small—set the intention to get a free coffee, and let it go! Go about your day, and do your usual tasks.
However, when a friend invites you for coffee and treats you, or when your neighbor travels abroad and brings you a bag of coffee from another country, or when you are in line at Starbucks and the person in front of you pays for your order, you will know the power of embracing divine nonchalance in the manifestation process.
