This is what I hear in my spiritual practice with clients who seem chagrined that they’re not the reincarnated Napoleon Bonaparte, Gandhi, Cleopatra, or Abraham Lincoln: “But I haven’t done anything important.” “I don’t deserve this.” “Who am I to demand that?” “Who do I think I am?”
This type of thinking is akin to saying, “Nothing monumental happened in these two sentences on page 15,598 in this million-page book I’m reading, so what’s the point? This book is worthless.”
Of course, those two sentences move the story along. You’re moving your story along whether slaying the dragon happens on page 15,598 or doesn’t show up until page 230,340.
So who are you? You are a warrior across the cosmos. You have chosen the most difficult self-assignment: incarnating in a physical form when you were comfortable and chilling on the Other Side.
You creatively burst forth from a blissful hive into this dense plane, like a daffodil sprouting from a parched cracked concrete jungle of any abandoned playground; like a raindrop sent from the heavens to feed said daffodil; like a breath from a newborn; and like the sparkle in a toddler’s eyes upon a new discovery.
Again, who are you? You are existence. You are a thread in the tapestry of humanity. Without you, there is an unraveling.
Back to my clients. I say, “If you were to leave tomorrow (decide to take your ball and go back Home), no points are calculated and no judgment is made. Do you know this? You have done enough. Your presence is enough, it always was. Your very presence, your word, your breath, your glance has set worlds in motion.”
“But,” they say, “how do I feel this worthiness?”
Richard Knight, the famous psychic, promotes the 20-minute chair exercise, and I’d like to share it with you:
Sit in a chair or lie down. Close your eyes. You may have soft music on or complete silence… and do nothing for 20 minutes aside from breathing. Just sit. Let the body relax. Do not move around; do not get up; do not open your eyes. Resist the urge to go anywhere physically. Just sit and breathe.
As the minutes tick by your body will acquiesce and settle. You will unclench. Just be your cosmic-warrior self. Have no expectation, for that is what the world demands of you—no expectation but to be. Carve out this time several times a week.
Need something more concrete?
Pick up your pen (ok, for those of you in the 21st century, fire up that keyboard) and write a letter to yourself. Pretend you are your higher-self, giving your human-self guidance, like you would a friend who came to you and said, “I feel worthless.” Read that letter daily.
Redirect your energy into a creative pursuit. Can’t affect world peace? Build a birdhouse for your neighbor. Can’t save famine victims 5000 miles from you? Channel that desire into volunteering at a food bank around the corner. Didn’t nail that coq au vin recipe you downloaded and tried yesterday? Admire the chocolate mousse you created today.
Focus on yourself. Yes, be selfish. Refill your proverbial cup by:
- being kind to your body. Get that massage, get a new hairdo, dance to your favorite high school song (you know you have one), buy those shoes…
- being kind to your mind. Don’t have the words for yourself? Listen to someone else’s words in the form of guided meditation, counseling session, or a simple play date with a friend (yes, you have many).
- being kind to your spirit. Light a candle, talk out loud to your higher-self or an angel or guide of your understanding, watch a cute kitten video on YouTube.
Would you say the lady bug is less worthy than the lion? Or the housewife less worthy than the CEO of a Fortune 100 company? Or the bus driver less worthy than the astronaut? Is one of your children less worthy than another? Is one of your pets less worthy than the other?
Worthiness is not a ranking exercise. It is not achieved in deed; it is what you came in with as a soul with a body, no holds barred, no questions asked. Worthiness is not about obtaining it or even keeping it. It’s about remembering it and delighting in it and the unique soul that you are, ad infinitum.