“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
—C. G. Jung.
Have you ever found yourself in a place or situation you’ve said you don’t want to be in? Unsure why you’re feeling the feelings you’ve said you don’t want to feel anymore? It’s exhausting and disheartening to say the least. So, why does this pattern keep repeating?
First, I want you to think of your mind as an iceberg. The tip of the iceberg (what one can see) is your conscious thoughts and feelings. Thoughts and feelings like “I’m angry,” “I don’t like this,” and “I want _______.” The tip of the iceberg is what is easily accessible and known to us.
However, our minds don’t stop there. We also have our subconscious mind, the submerged part of the iceberg. As we all know, the submerged part is the largest. So, what does that mean for us? That the largest part of our brain isn’t of “use”?
On the contrary. Our subconscious mind is what’s running the show we call our lives. That is especially the case when one hasn’t taken the time to get to know their true (aka subconscious) beliefs about themselves and their life.
Those beliefs are the root of one’s thought and behavioral pattern—what our lives make up. It is what leads a person to repeat the same patterns over and over again and be in the same place one is saying they no longer want to be in.
Mike Dooley is known for his saying “thoughts become things” and that couldn’t be more true. The thoughts we have create our lives. But what happens when our true, deep-rooted, subconscious thoughts and feelings don’t align, or, worse yet, conflict with the conscious thoughts one is saying to change their life?
You’re left in the same place you’ve been and not understanding why that is so. A subconscious thought is always going to override a conscious one, thus why so many people get “stuck” and aren’t able to manifest their desires.
For example, let’s say you are trying to manifest the love of your life who treats you amazingly, values you, is kind, plans for the future, etc. But, instead of finding your prince charming, you keep finding yourself with a bunch of frogs. Frogs as in people who don’t respect, care, love, and value you in the way you’re (consciously) looking for.
This leaves you feeling alone, not cared for, not loved, not chosen, not valued, confused, and hurt, time and time again. If this is you, and you no longer want this to be you, it’s time to uncover the hidden (subconscious) beliefs you have about yourself and the beliefs you have around love.
Those beliefs are attracting the frogs. Those beliefs are running the show and dictating the events that play out in your life.
In short, you manifest (create what is your life) from your subconscious beliefs.
If you find yourself in the same place over and over, spend time excavating your subconscious beliefs around that situation. The key here is to do so in a curious, loving, nonjudgmental way, as if you are an observer getting to know someone else.
Side note: There truly is no reason to ever judge yourself. The beliefs you uncover might appear scary and you might be surprised that’s how you truly feel, and that’s okay. That’s normal. Those beliefs are covered for a reason; they’re not necessarily pleasant. That’s why it’s important to get to know them, love them, and heal them, so you can catch your subconscious mind up with your conscious desires.
The best way to uncover subconscious beliefs is to ask yourself questions. For example: How did the last person you dated make you feel? Not cared for? Not chosen? Not valued? Not loved? Do those feelings feel familiar?
Can you think of someone else who has made you feel that way? Can you recall the first time you’ve felt that way? Who made you feel that way? Is that the story you’ve been telling yourself since?
Your answers are your subconscious beliefs—the very beliefs that are running the show!
Let’s say you answered that your parents made you feel unloved growing up. Can you see how you’ve been attracting people who mirror and “confirm” that belief? The very people you have been consciously trying to avoid!
Now that you have your answer, you can begin to heal that wound (feeling unloved as a child) and instill new beliefs (that you are so lovable). That is when you’ll find your prince charming. Your subconscious beliefs will now be aligned with your conscious desires to then manifest that reality!
This can be applied to everything and anything in one’s life. If you feel like you’re in a cycle that keeps leading to the same outcome, that’s a clear indicator there’s a subconscious belief blocking your conscious desire.
That tells you to tune into yourself, get curious, and go deep to uncover the hidden root belief to then exchange it with an updated one. Only then will you receive your manifestation!
