Grief is one of the most potent, powerful ways to clear your way to connection.
It’s not an easy route, by any means. But it’s one of life’s inevitable experiences, and it certainly can accelerate spiritual development and the channel to your psychic self.
Whether it’s grieving a loved one or moving through big changes in life such as divorce, kids leaving home, retirement, menopause, or any other significant shift, grief is powerful, physical, and a sort of masterclass in letting go and taking the next steps to living a life that feels good.
At any given time in my life, I have people all around me who are experiencing grief. People often think I’ve had a lot of grief in my life—and yes, I have to a certain extent but no more than the next person.
Grieving people are drawn to me. Maybe that’s because I can sense spirit and reassure them that their loved ones are okay (they are, by the way). I bridge that gap, helping grieving people move through the super strong physical emotions that happen in the human body when we lose a loved one.
Grief is also one of the strongest ways to clear through your own connection to your intuition, source, and higher self. It’s such a strong emotion—you’ll know that if you’ve ever been through it.
The emotions that purge from your body are incredibly powerful: rage, fear, guilt, sadness, frustration, anger… Those feelings are so viscerally strong, they affect you in a physical way. Often, this manifests in the body.
When we’re grieving, we tend to have problems with the lungs, which is where grief is stored according to Chinese medicine. While you’re grieving, you may find your body becomes ill at certain times. Maybe you just feel exhausted.
Many of us experienced this during and after the pandemic, while we were grieving loved ones, the loss of our freedom, or shedding old identities.
More recently, the death of Queen Elizabeth highlighted the power of collective grief—a sense of loss that’s amplified as the world shares in it in some way.
As grief moves through us, it clears the way for us to let go and receive. It’s the ultimate cleaning solution—the ultimate cleaning hack for our bodies that helps us connect to ourselves, to source, and of course, to our psychic selves.
Grief is the most powerful emotional scourer there is for your soul. Grief expresses the sense of loss that comes from clearing or decluttering people, identities, relationships, or situations. Letting go is the work of grief, which allows us to move towards finding new energy—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
The actions we take during the grieving process, no matter how small, are the stepping stones to beginning to receive what’s waiting for us around the corner.
I always say that hanging on to things is like gripping a pencil in your hand for too long and then if you let it go, what happens? The pencil drops, your hand relaxes, and you’re hand is free to receive. Grief takes us through that process of gripping so hard and resisting change to being open to receiving.
Here are some journal prompts to help explore grief:
- Where have you experienced grief in your life?
- How have those experiences helped you to receive more?
- Where are you “gripping the pencil” in life at the moment?
- What are you afraid to let go of because grief seems too much?
- How can you shift that resistance, knowing that grief clears the way?
Ultimately, grief will always be with us. We are humans, after all. We can learn to live alongside it, to co-exist and move with grief, knowing it has a powerful purpose to enrich our lives.