Letting Go of the Cursed Hows and Moving with Your Dreams

BY Mike Dooley        December 3, 2014

One of the main things I speak and teach about is letting go of the "cursed hows" and moving with your dreams. It's common that when we have a dream, we spend our time worrying about HOW we can make it a reality, when the truth is that letting go of those "hows" is the only real way to move closer in the direction of our dreams.

Here's an example: Let's say you want to live in wealth and abundance...

Immediately, your mind will begin thinking about HOW you're going to get there. Based on your gifts, talents, or education, you may arrive at a few possible approaches, such as writing a bestselling book, winning the lottery, or climbing the corporate ladder. Now, while each of these 3 ways may yield wealth, the Universe knows many, many other ways. It also knows "things" that you don't know, such as the likely direction of the economy, gifts of yours that you've not yet tapped, and who else out there might be well served by your dreams fruition, and thus become an able companion/helper/partner for you in this quest.

If you insist on your own very limited notions, not only will you shut out the other possibilities known by the Universe, but you will likely put unnecessary pressure on your talents, forcing them to be the bringer of your gifts. For instance, if you enjoy writing, one sure way to begin hating it (and thus doing it very poorly), is to saddle your writing gift with the unnecessary burden of creating your wealth! Why do that? Write because you love to write, and chances are it will please others as well.

Still, you must do more than just dream of the end result. You must move with your dreams. You must live. How? By "doing what you can," all that you can, but not defining those actions as "the way" in which your dream will come true. For example, if you want wealth:

  1. Define the end result in your mind or on paper. Clearly create your goal, and understand your intent.

  2. Begin where you are today, addressing what's "on your plate" and deciding your next steps by doing what you can via following your new hunches, instincts, and desires (which are all gifts from the Universe and hardly accidental).

Doing what you can is generally more immediate, here and now kind of stuff, but often people disregard these urges because they seem so futile in delivering the big bucks (keeping with the same example). The trick is this, realizing that you're doing what you can is how you engage and inspire the Universe to do what it can on your behalf. Doing what you can is NOT how you will directly strike it rich. You cannot, through your physical acts alone, get rich, but you can get the wheels and the magic of the Universe turning in your favor, at which point you can become rich beyond your wildest dreams.

Always, there must be a faith and a recognition of the Universe and its ways. Deciding or fretting over the HOW'S negates any such beliefs, whereas doing what you can, reinforces and demonstrates the faith that you will be met half way.


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Mike Dooley

Mike Dooley is a former PriceWaterhouseCoopers international tax consultant, turned entrepreneur, who's founded a philosophical Adventurers Club on the internet that's now home to over 600,000 members from over 182 countries. His inspirational books emphasizing spiritual accountability have been published in 25 languages and he was one of the featured teachers in the international phenomenon, The Secret. Today Mike is best known for his free Notes from the Universe e-mailings and his New York Times bestsellers Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams and Leveraging the Universe: 7 Steps to Engaging Life's Magic. Mike lives what he teaches, traveling internationally speaking on life, dreams, and happiness.

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