How to Maintain Faith through Loneliness, Sadness, and Doubt

BY Mike Dooley        November 30, 2014

To a large degree, each of us walks alone, and on a unique path. My answers may not be the right answers for you. Still, I have a few thoughts, and hopefully some might lighten your load on those darker days.

Allow your feelings to be felt. The more you're capable of feeling pain, the greater your capacity for joy will be. Darkness passes and things are never as bad as they seem at the time. Allow your feelings to be felt. Go ahead and feel the darkness. Don't judge it "bad," the judgment might only increase your sensitivity to it, making things seem worse than they are, and for the mere fact that you may dwell on them (by judging them), you may only perpetuate them.

Take baby steps in the direction you’d like to go. Loneliness and other emotions are best tackled by taking "baby steps" in the direction you'd like to go. Dealing with people can seem overwhelming, particularly if there aren't many now in your life. Join a club, go for walks, visit parks, go to the mall, get out, even if some of these things won't lead to introductions, just taking steps toward "people" will help end feelings of isolation, and will likely lead you to take other steps that you can't now see.

Remember, you are not your emotions. When you feel negative, realize it's just a feeling, not who you are, nor who you're going to be. If you feel depressed and uncertain, it's usually because you feel powerless. Ask yourself why. Why, as an Unlimited Being of Light worthy to receive your days in this paradise of time and space, should you feel limited?

Don’t look back. Don't bother. No matter what decisions you've made, the Universe is now dealing with them on your behalf. It's conspiring, at full throttle, to make all your dreams come true, right from where you are today. It hasn't given up, nor should you. It hasn't judged you, nor should you. Help the Universe out here. It's still aiming for all the joys that lay ahead. Might as well make the best of wherever you are, and keep focusing on where you want to go, not where you've been.

Use the past as you might use a ladder. Use your past as a tool to go where you want to go, not an anchor. Don't punish yourself for your "mistakes," simply learn from them. No matter what path you've chosen to walk, know this... whether or not it's now apparent, you chose the right one.


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Mike Dooley

Mike Dooley is a former PriceWaterhouseCoopers international tax consultant, turned entrepreneur, who's founded a philosophical Adventurers Club on the internet that's now home to over 600,000 members from over 182 countries. His inspirational books emphasizing spiritual accountability have been published in 25 languages and he was one of the featured teachers in the international phenomenon, The Secret. Today Mike is best known for his free Notes from the Universe e-mailings and his New York Times bestsellers Infinite Possibilities: The Art of Living Your Dreams and Leveraging the Universe: 7 Steps to Engaging Life's Magic. Mike lives what he teaches, traveling internationally speaking on life, dreams, and happiness.

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