Mike is often posed with some great questions about life, dreams, and happiness. Some are very personal, while others are general. These questions are often the kind we've all wrestled with in our lives, sometimes deducing our own answers, other times not. Since many of these questions are universal, Mike began posting answers here so that others might benefit from the correspondence.*
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Question of the Day
Is it okay to live life for another person?
Dear Mike, is it best to live for another, and pay the price of personal dissatisfaction, or live for yourself, and pay the price of guilt and the knowledge that you have hurt another? (There is always a price, right?)
Answer
No, there's not always a price. You needn't feel guilty if your choice is self-happiness. Any real friend would want this for you. Nor can you hurt another by choosing your own happiness, unless they choose to be hurt. Breaking someone's heart is not a violation if it would break your heart to stay with them. Feeling guilty is also a choice. If there are other considerations in the relationship, however, all of them must be weighed and "adjustments" might be made where necessary. Of course, it's not really possible to choose a happiness...
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Question of the Day
Is it okay to live life for another person?
Dear Mike, is it best to live for another, and pay the price of personal dissatisfaction, or live for yourself, and pay the price of guilt and the knowledge that you have hurt another? (There is always a price, right?)
Answer
No, there's not always a price. You needn't feel guilty if your choice is self-happiness. Any real friend would want this for you. Nor can you hurt another by choosing your own happiness, unless they choose to be hurt. Breaking someone's heart is not a violation if it would break your heart to stay with them. Feeling guilty is also a choice. If there are other considerations in the relationship, however, all of them must be weighed and "adjustments" might be made where necessary. Of course, it's not really possible to choose a happiness that "violates" another. Under such circumstances your choice wouldn't really make you happy. But then the term "violate" has different meanings to different people. The code to follow closest would be the one in your own heart, NOT someone else's heart.
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