|
Mammograms and Super Stars
Q: I recently
watched my mother die of cancer. If thoughts become things, and I go to
get a mammogram because my thought process says I should because I might
have cancer . . . then aren't I thinking about cancer
and prone to get it? I know you're going to say I should get it,
but please explain to me why I should, because I don't want to.
Also, I don't know if you are
familiar with the TV show, American Idol? The first show was about all
these people auditioning for a chance to become the next singing
sensation. Some of them were absolutely horrendous, but they believed with
all their heart and soul that they were good. No amount of thinking was
going to make them good singers, but they were absolutely adamant that
someday, they were going to "make it." How do you explain this? Also,
people who are mentally ill who truly believe that they are the Queen of
England for example, but they are not.
A: Great
questions!
Since we live in a
world with others who think so differently than us, and since we may
have unwittingly bought into their rationale, it's
often wise to "do what's
normal" (e.g. get a mammogram, wear your car
seat belt, buy health insurance, etc.) even
though all of these things are "negative". These
little steps are often far less harmful than the worry (and fearful
thinking) that might set in if you don't do them. But of course, that's
not all you should do, particularly in your shoes, when doctors and
statistics are telling you that cancer is a likelihood. Immersing
yourself in truth, with good books and enlighten friends would be
helpful, all of which will remind you of how unsusceptible you are to
hereditary conditions. Living deliberately and planning long term are
other ideas. Not obsessing over your screenings would be important
(booking them more often than is "recommended"). Not excessively talking
about breast cancer, your mothers cause of death, or your "issue" here
would be very important) don't give it power. Little things like these
really add up, and will give you a lot of power, and a new focus.
Not
being HONEST with ourselves explains the singer type questions.
For example, doing things for reasons we won't
admit to. Claiming to believe something that we don't really believe.
Ignoring our own hunches,
intuition and DESIRES. With ill people it's much the same, except its
gone on for so long, they become delusional.
Ultimately, we all know the truth
deep down, about ourselves, our lives, and our intents, no matter what
we say or claim to believe, although if the pattern is so repeated and
habitual, it may take some serious help for some to pull themselves out
of it.
|
