Q:  What if I don't want a person to fade away...I just want a better life for him? What about his reality? Was I drawn to him based upon his thoughts? Then why don't we get along better? Just wondering....

A:  Not getting along just means learning is taking place, probably the same learning that you each knew would come from the relationship... part of the reason you were drawn together to begin with, so it might be unfortunate for both of you if the learning environment ceased, but...

...as we learn and grow our needs often change... and then, so might our relationships. Also, it may just be that a lesson could be "too hard" for someone, and so they "drop the class". Just because there's been an attraction, or a union, doesn't mean it will serve you both forever, nor even a short while.

Lastly, each person gets to decide for themselves what a better life for them would be. Wanting a better life for someone, usually translates into wanting a better life for yourself - this is what you're really after, though you might call it something else in the name of virtue - and while everyone should want that, it muddies up the waters if their intentions aren't clear about what they really want, and why.