How does this work in relationships?

Q:  How does this work in relationships?  I am at a 'bump' in the road with my love.  Everything has  rolled along for 2 years waiting on things that seemed impossible, at times, to happen, and now, they  have.  A perfect 'don't worry about the how' scene, it just did.  Now, he suddenly doesn't know if  he can "get past the 'kid thing'."  I have 2 boys and yeah, he knew about them all along.

So, do I think: "It'll be ok.  He really loves me as much as he said he did/does."  or "It'll be ok one way or another." 

Even if I have to cut my heart open and dig him out of it.  Do I think "I will be happy"  or  "I will get to live what I've been dreaming of for 2 years"?  Can my thoughts alter his thinking?

Help!  I'm so frustrated, confused and having trouble thinking good ones.  It's like someone just uncovered a hole in my ship.

A:  1- Think the latter, "It'll be OK one way or another". And then 2- that you will be happy.

Sounds like your biggest challenge is hinging your happiness on him and what he does. Instead of LOVE being your goal, it's been him. Our thoughts cannot make someone else's reality. Start dwelling on love, he'll pick up your thoughts and be moved to a decision, his own decision... either in with you, or out for good.

When you think of LOVE... you allow the Universe to find the right person. When you think of a person, you are messing with the cursed how's.