Q:  I'm scared of dying without ever living...  

Mike, you say to do little things, then they'll build into bigger things. That doesn't answer doing what. I'm desperate in finding, but, honestly, I haven't the faintest idea what to look for. It's nothing like finding one, but feel I might fail. It's far worse than that. I don't know anything beyond sitting in my room, watching tv. Either that or washing dishes and clothes. That's been my limit of knowledge all of my 37 years. It's getting me really depressed, knowing my life has been a throw away. I want so badly to do something about it. I have a purpose in life, not just to be here and finding ways to kill time til it's my turn to go. Please help.


A:  You are in an excellent frame of mind to make changes NOW… don’t let up on yourself. What do you like to do? Do it. Where do you like to go? Go there. Who do you like talking to? Talk to them. What hobbies have you ever thought you might like? Start them. IF nothing else, hang out at the nearest mall. Smile to passersby. Look into being a volunteer somewhere. 

Your life has been a blessing exactly as it’s been… especially the wake up call you just gave yourself. You’ve been absorbing it all, taking it in, and watching how it all works. Now you’re ready to go out and try “stuff” yourself. You will appreciate things that others take for granted, you are the lucky one, happiness will come swiftly. You can do it. You better do it. Every day, week, month, or year you put this off, the harder it will be to begin and fit in. You are young, make haste. Go. Now. Tonight!


Q: But I have gone to the mall, I have tried some of what you suggested, but basically, I simply don't know WHAT to do.

A: Sometimes the answers don’t seem that easy. Like the answers I shared. Go back to the mall, keep your eyes peeled for advertisements (every) for functions you like. Make the effort to find and entertain new friends. Call some old friends. Explore selling your arts and crafts. Join clubs. Do some of these things even if you don’t totally want to, remember the alternative.

Visualize yourself surrounded by friends and laughter. Accept every invitation you get for anything. Push open every door that is half cracked. It will be somewhat uncomfortable, but you’ve already told me your life now is already uncomfortable. You will have to overcompensate a bit for all the times you’ve enjoyed being reclusive. Either being reclusive or gregarious have prices to pay.

You should also examine some of your beliefs if you can. My audio recordings “Infinite Possibilities” might help you. Stop telling yourself that you don’t know what to do and start telling yourself that you do. Tell yourself that it is easy. Tell yourself that “everything’s different from now on”. Tell yourself all the things you want to be true are true – even if it feels ridiculous!!!!!