Can my thoughts bring back my husband?

Q:  I was married for 33 years when my husband left me for someone else. I try to be so positive Michael, and you keep saying that thoughts become things... am I hoping in vain?????? Help me Michael.

A:  I have your answer, though it may not be exactly what you hoped to hear, please just try to understand it deeply -

I believe entirely that thoughts strive to become things... without exception... but when operating in a "shared" arena, this must be true for everyone's thoughts. So when it comes to visualizing specific people, while they and their thoughts are deeply connected to you and your thoughts (no matter how far away they are, and whether or not this seems evident) they also have free will and make their own reality. You can not make someone else's reality, nor would you want someone to make your reality for you. 

Therefore, you and your thoughts can not direct or influence someone else's life unless they allow it, or unless they have the same thoughts for themselves. Bluntly, you can not make someone want to be with you if they don't want to, because they have their own desires, thoughts and total control over their own destiny.

But this isn't bad news, because what you really want is NOT a particular person in your life, but what that person makes you feel... appreciated, approved of, needed, loved, special, worthy... or WHATEVER. You must be insightful and honest enough with yourself to see this, and it may not be easy... but IT IS the challenge you've set for yourself at this point in your life. 

Understand that what you most want are feelings, not a particular person, and those feelings are abundantly available to you in this most accommodating Universe. How do you get them? By realizing that you deserve them, by understanding that they can come to you in infinite ways, and to begin feeling them at every opportunity. HERE'S THE MOST IMPORTANT PART... do NOT decide, or tell the Universe, what must happen in order for you to feel these. Do NOT think that these feelings can only come to you from a specific person. Do NOT insist on the method, or means, of their attainment.

You very likely feel terribly hurt right now, and you may believe that the only way to undo the pain, is to undo what has happened... in other words, to have your husband come back. But there are many other ways to undo the pain (better ways) and achieving happiness is one of them, along with deeply understanding, loving, forgiving, and allowing your husband to choose his own way, because however it may seem, he loves you and he IS simply "doing his best".

I STRONGLY suggest that you visualize yourself FEELING happy, and whatever other emotions you'd like to feel, but again, do not put someone specific in the picture. Here is what I do in similar situations... picture yourself going for a walk, or driving your car, or talking with friends, and see and FEEL yourself almost exploding with joy, just imagine that feeling of happiness... and/or imagine the other feelings you want, but DO NOT think about why you are feeling it. 

Imagine friends of yours and their reaction to your wonderful news about UNSPECIFIED events that have just taken place in your life. DO NOT define these events (unless you do so very broadly), just picture the tail end of the conversation. There are a million things you can visualize that would be side effects of unspecified "happy" events.

Don't visualize much more than once or twice a day, and for no more than 5 or 10 minutes... and don't go looking around for results! Drop these thoughts once you are done, and get busy with living your life and being happy with the blessings you already have.

By being very specific with the emotions you want, and unspecific about the means of their attainment, you give the Universe full rein at bringing truly stunning results to you... and you will achieve these feelings MUCH FASTER! And... it MAY be possible that the means to achieving your happiness will bring back your husband... but this doesn't matter!!!! 

You want and deserve to be happy, and so does he. Let him find his own way, as you must find yours, and if it is right, your paths will cross again, but if it's not right... then there is no point in forcing an issue where there would be less happiness, and less growth for the 2 of you. You would be best served by thinking as little as you can about your husband, and as much as you can about being happy... and not believing in the illusion that he is the key to your happiness... because this IS just an illusion.

I am sure this is not what you wanted to hear, but this challenge would not have presented itself to you if you were not ready to handle it. You ARE capable of understanding what I just shared, and you are profoundly capable of now living the happiest years of your life... with, or without, a specific person in your life. PLEASE KNOW THIS.

I hope you choose to let these words sink in, and to find their truth. It will become easier over time. My very best to you.