Q: Hi Mike. I am a fan of your work and have listened to Infinite Possibilities over the past year. While it’s been an amazing journey of personal growth, I've created some very trying circumstances for myself in the past few years, including the suicide of my 18 year old son, 2 years ago. 

Three weeks ago, my wife of 11 years said she didn't think she loved me anymore.  According to her, the personal tragedies we've been through, coupled with her depression and our lack of communication has caused us to grow apart. Interestingly, at about the same time this happened, an old flame of mine (from 15 years ago) re-contacted me, innocently enough, at first, but it's clear that there is a lot of "chemistry" going on there.

I understand this is a very brief statement of a very complex issue, but it's causing a great deal of stress on my part.  I'm looking for input on how can I use the Infinite Possibilities principles to help guide me through my choices regarding honoring responsibilities and commitments while still being able to seek my own happiness…

I also would appreciate your thoughts/explanation on my role in creating the suicide of my son.  I’ve read the website and your Q&A’s, but this has got to be one of the toughest things to understand.

 

A: Choose to do what serves you (in the short and long run), and be honest to all involved. Sometimes a short term fling can bring long term pain. So choosing it under such a hypothetical situation would not be very “selfish” at all, just foolish. Which is NOT to characterize your situation!

As for your son, you didn’t create his suicide. He did. It was entirely his decision. You did choose, however, to love him in what turned out to be an extremely difficult lifetime for him. To be available and to be of assistance, knowing ahead of time some of the innumerable choices he may have made, and even though suicide was on that list, you were not dissuaded.  

You have much to look forward to.