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My husband is an alcoholic!
Q: I have been living with an
alcoholic husband and I have been
through a world wind of emotions;
standing by him, helping him,
resenting him, sympathy, and
hatred...it is awful. Also, throw in
a 10 year old beautiful daughter. He
has been through rehab and is trying
his butt off to remain sober and
move forward, but the worry I have on a daily basis is 'what if he
slips?' I am sick of worrying about
it - not being able to concretely
make plans because he may have a bad
day. It's like having a part-time
husband.
My sober husband is wonderful
- we have the BEST time - we make a
great team. And the three of us, we
are happy. BUT OH, WATCH OUT for
daddy's "Bad" or "Rough" days... it
is killing me - emotionally and
physically. I feel like my world is
crashing even though I am moving
forward with all my hopes and
dreams. I am not giving up on my
business adventure and my life. I am
strong and have a caring and
forgiving heart... I am just afraid
I am fighting for my marriage and my
husband only to see it end in the
future anyway. Any thoughts?
A: I think you are feeling that
"he" is your problem; that he is
keeping you, and perhaps your
daughter, from happiness. There's no
denying he has a problem, but from
what you wrote it seems there may
still be room in the relationship
for you and your daughter to find
happiness, without insisting that he
be "normal" (plenty of little girls
don't even have a father).
Further, there's nothing stopping
you from leaving, with your
daughter, and finding happiness
elsewhere, with or without a new
partner, if that's what your deepest
instincts are telling you.
As always, I'd caution you not to
make any big decisions until you
have that inner "knowing" feeling
that it is right and that it is
time.
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