My first TWO children were "taken"...

Q: Michael Dooley, thank you, may God bless you always I am still grieving over my son and I know I will till my last breath, to have my two first born taken is hard, especially today... 


A: There’s nothing your sons would appreciate more than YOU being strong enough (selfish enough) to let go of the grieving. They are deliriously happy where they are, except for one thing... whenever they check in on you, they feel your sadness, and it weighs on them. They are saying “Mom… we didn’t die!! We’re doing fine!! You’ll join us before you know it, but for now, you still have a life to live, a wonderful life. 

Don’t look back… you should see what’s in store for you in the coming weeks and months… if you stop looking back. Don’t think sad thoughts. Sad thoughts breed more sad thoughts. Have fun and be happy and time will fly by like a rocket, and next thing you know we’ll all be loving and laughing together. And one more thing Mom… don’t say this is hard to do. It’s not. Well, maybe at first it will be, but it will get much, much easier once you start. Be determined. You can do it. We’re cheering for you. We’re counting on you. We love you!” 

If you were the one who had died, and they lived, would it give you comfort to know they grieved their whole life for you? 

You definitely have a challenge here, a huge one, but you wouldn’t be living through it if you weren’t capable of rising above it. 

Peace and happiness to you,