Setting New Year’s Resolutions for What You Really Want

BY Noelle C. Nelson        January 6, 2017

A year ago, Atlanta’s Homeward Choir, a group of 26 homeless men from Atlanta’s Central Night Shelter, was invited to sing at the White House in December of 2015. When the group got the invitation -- and how that came about is a wonderful story -- among the many questions the choir members asked of their director, Donal Noonan, was “Why us?” to which Noonan responded, “Why not us?”

And that is the question I invite you to ask yourself this New Year, as you make your New Year’s resolutions: Why not your biggest dream? Your dearest wish? Your fondest hope?

Why settle for “I will lose 20 pounds this year” when what you really want is a vibrant, healthy, strong body that just happens to also be 20 pounds lighter? Why settle for “I will get a new job” when what you really want is a job that’s a terrific fit for your skills and talents with a paycheck that rewards you accordingly?

You see, it’s hard to muster up the passion, enthusiasm, and persistence it takes to realize your New Year’s resolutions when they’re lackluster. They need luster! Brilliance! Shine! How else are you going to commit to something that will take persistence and perseverance?

Yes, you do have to map out the steps to getting there. For your “vibrant, healthy, strong, 20 pound lighter body” you must figure out the diet and exercise plan that will allow you to fulfill your goal. In addition to a new mental conditioning that includes, in all likelihood, mindfulness and meditation, positive affirmations and the like. Probably also setting up a buddy system for yourself, so that you have the support you need along the way.

Will you be motivated to do all that just to lose 20 pounds? Not to mention the day to day focus that it takes! Maybe. But there’s a lot more pulling power towards your goal when you are aiming for what you really want: vibrant, healthy, strong and 20 pounds lighter.

The same thing applies to your “I will get a new job” resolution. Nice, but will your resolution sustain you through figuring out the skills you need to acquire or hone, finding the money, time and seminars/classes you need? Then through the resume process, the hunt for the right job process, the spiffing-yourself-up process, and everything else it takes to get a new job. Isn’t it far more inspiring to go for a “terrific job that’s a terrific fit with terrific pay” resolution (and why not add “terrific boss and terrific co-workers” to your resolution as well?!).

Why not? As W. Clement Stone famously said: “Always aim for the moon, even if you miss, you'll land among the stars.

 

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Noelle C. Nelson

Noelle C. Nelson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, relationship expert, popular speaker in the U.S. and abroad, and author of over a dozen best-selling books, including Happy Healthy… Dead: Why What You Think You Know About Aging is Wrong and How to Get it Right. Dr. Nelson focuses on how we can all enjoy happy, fulfilling lives while accomplishing great things in love, at home and at work, as we appreciate ourselves, our world and all others. Visit www.noellenelson.com.

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